Emotional

This week has been extremely emotional for me… a lot of ups and downs.

One day I’d be bouncing about in happiness, the next there will be moments of hysterical sobbing.

Oh well, the shitty parts don’t bug me for too long though, because like a wise man once said, there will be no happiness without a little pain. Without moments of sadness and loss to serve as the greatest reminder of how we are truly privileged in our happiest times, how else will we selfish, forgetful humans learn to constantly appreciate what we have?

When the going gets tough, the tough gets going. So no matter what happens, I’m here to hold my head up high. Even if I have my teeny weeny moments of mental breakdown, such as going ape shit and breaking and flinging stuff in my room (a sort of tantrum I never EVER throw!) I know I’d better pull my shit together soon because I can only imagine it’s going to get tougher from here.

I would love to tell you guys all about my problems and let off some steam, but a lot of them are very personal (family-related) and I’m not a fan of airing dirty linen in public unnecessarily, so I guess I can’t say very much besides the fact that I’ve been very, very fucking stressed. But it’s a-okay, looking at pretty cupcakes on a near daily basis is keeping me somewhat sane, although that’s redundant to a point since making them constantly is what’s driving me insane in the first place!

Everyday, it’s either running errands, or replying emails (which is a new phobia of mine – opening my inbox, because there is always MORE work mails to reply to!!), or baking and decorating cakes, or playing Maplestory with Sam to keep him entertained, or cooking for family, and the few hours I actually have the time to myself, I choose to plonk myself down on my bed and fall asleep in exhaustion.

I swear you can see prominent-ish dark eye circles underneath my eyes now, a feature I didn’t have before!

People around me haven’t even been trying to make it easier on me either, in fact they are more often than not the cause of my problems.

And I realize in times of desperate need, I am REALLY the only person I can truly rely on. Friends and family are real swell and all, but no pillar is stronger than faith in yourself. Today after another mini mental breakdown, I am making a personal promise to love myself more.

Eat healthier (instead of always skipping meals), exercise more (yeah fucking right but there’s nothing wrong with comforting yourself), indulge in things I love more frequently such as photography, shopping, traveling (how long has it been?) and of course, blogging. I have realized that by neglecting myself, I have also inadvertently neglected my blog for quite awhile now. But I try to share as much with you as possible most of the time, going as far as a public online diary allows me to. Being politically correct is tiring, can I just the fuck the world and say how I really feel?

Will you still love me tomorrow?

xoxo,
Jess

xoxo,
Jess

Business Etiquette

So I’ve noticed something painfully obvious ever since I’ve started selling cakes online.

It seems like certain people take me less seriously nowadays just because… well, I am a cupcake seller. I know it doesn’t sound too impressive and all housewifey - sitting at home cracking eggs, melting butter and mixing batter, then decorating desserts with buttercream details and getting my hands all gready and stained with food colouring…

Definitely sounds a lot less flashy than going for photoshoots and being a so-called “model”, or being a “blogger” attending high profile social events and whatnot.

What I don’t get is… how people see that as a reason to treat me with less respect and seriousness just because my current “job” is lower down the social or business ladder?

Hello, it’s not as if I am a bloody low class hooker or social escort, can you show a little R.E.S.P.E.C.T for what I do?

Just because I choose to sell cupcakes online for a marginal profit, it doesn’t mean I’m HARD UP for money and that I desperately need your business or deserve your fucked up snobbish behaviour.

I don’t do this because I have “no choice”, I enjoy what I do and some things in life doesn’t have to be all about the money to me.

I’ll give you a prime example.

Recently, some chick I met (once) years ago messaged me on Facebook, saying:

“I have been noticing you been doing a lot of cakes and cupcakes. Possible to make a mother’s day cake? My wedding firm is hosting a mother’s day competition and we need to have a cake presented to the winner.

We can pay you, interested?”

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First of all, I find it insulting for someone to say “I have been noticing you have been doing a lot of cakes” instead of

“Hey, I’ve seen your photo albums of your cake, nice work! I’m interested in ordering some for my company because we this event coming up,…..”

It kind of gives me the impression that she’s implying,

“Well, I’m not really going to compliment your work since I’m not that big a fan, but I’ll settle for you anyway since Facebook is convenient and I have been noticing you’ve been baking cakes and I can’t be be bothered sending you a proper email with a business proposal or to look for another professional baker.”

Maybe that’s just me being anal, but it’s astonishing to find how many people lack basic courtesy when discussing “business”.

Business is not an excuse for you to act like a jackass.

I mean she is running a wedding firm, right?! Who knew they settled for just any baker? I was under the impression since wedding cakes are so expensive, they’re from top-notch bakeries.

The second annoying thing is how she asked, “Possible to make a mother’s day cake?”

…Darling, in this world, anything in this world is possible if you have the money.

So the question is, how much are you willing to pay me?

Then comes my answer.


..”We can pay you, interested?”

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?!?!?!?!

LOLOLOL. Am I the only one who let out a loud snort when I read that bit?!

I just pretty much started scoffing to myself at that point. I would’ve stopped reading her message right then if she had more to say, but the funny thing is she just ended the message with “We can pay you, interested?!”

Ssince most wedding planners offer such cut throat prices to their clients, I don’t see any reason why you shouldn’t be able to pay for a simple cake.

No shit? You CAN pay me? Oh wow.

Because cake makers don’t naturally deserve to get paid for what they do, right?

I was sorta under the impression I had to bake cakes for free for the rest of my life since my skills are so undesirable and useless and they’re just cakes, anyone can bake and decorate pretty cakes themselves. *shrugs*

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I mean please, if her wedding firm was reputable and she was willing to offer me something worthy in return for my time, sure, I am willing to do it without any monetary compensation.

But right fucking now all it sounds like is, “HAI, CAN I HAVE A FREE CAKE????????1111″

So anyways. I decided to be nice and reply her. With all my might, I managed to exclude snide remarks and the word “pig”.

“Hey *name omitted*!

Could you fill out the order form at http://shibertys.blogspot.com/ with more details?

Was my reply.

I know it sounds brief, but duh, I need to know the design, cake flavour / size and all that shit right????? Right now there’s nothing to say cuz she’s given me pretty much no info so far besides the fact

1) She needs a cake

2) She may or may not be willing to pay for it.

Her 2nd reply came after 3-4 days:

“Sorry but is it possible to discuss this off without the order form due to the circumstances. I own a company called *company named removed*, it is a wedding firm in singapore and we need a cake for mother’s day. Design is still uncertain. I was wondering if you would be interested in a mutual collaboration. Perhaps you making the cake at a discounted rate and let us do some free publication for you?”

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Huh? Due to what circumstances? I don’t get it.

And once again, she gave me NO EFFING DETAILS of what she wants / needs. Does she think I’m some genie who magically grants her all her deepest fantasies on the spot?

She makes it sound like my order form is a waste of time but it’s the only way I am going to get the necessary information quickly outta people like her. Instead of sending dumb messages back and forth going, “Oh, so what do you have in mind? What flavour? What size?”

God I hate working with people like this!!!!!!! So much freaking redundancy!

My favourite customers are the clear-headed sensible no-bullshit ones who specify everything they want, I reply them giving them necessary payment and collection details, then BAM! WHAM! THANK YOU MAM!

Job’s done.


What the fuck is a free “publication”???

I am not a book, so please don’t “publish” me!

Or did she mean free PUBLICITY? Maybe she wants to publish my name big big in one of her wedding catalogues?! I still don’t understand. I don’t see how a small scale wedding firm can generate more publicity for my business more than my own personal blog can.

Anyway I don’t believe her stupid publicity shit la. It’s not free if I have to do something in return for it leh. I used to make cakes for this guy’s club and he said he will give me “free publicity” also don’t have.

He said he’d upload pics of the cake to Facebook and credit me and give my details to his customers at the club also don’t have?! Give them discount for fuck? Coincidentally I also met this said guy from the same event I met the girl from. Birds of a feather flock together indeed.

Her 3rd reply came very shortly after:

“Would you be interested? Please do let me know soon.”

*facepalm*

This is another pet peeve of mine. I hate people (yes I throw the word hate around a lot, roar!) who end off their messages / email with “Please do let me know soon” or “Please reply ASAP.”

Because these people are usually last minute procrastinators who don’t bother to make important necessary arrangements for their events and as a last resort, they spring surprise last minute orders on poor people like me.

I don’t like being a last resort, and I don’t like last minute orders.

I can’t tell you how many times I have replied peoples questions / orders (almost) immediately, only to have them reply like 5 days later going,

“Great!!! It’s settled then. So, can I have the cake tomorrow?”

And to further convince me they would include some bullshit fact like, “I understand it’s last minute but it’s my best friend’s birthday tomorrow. Please!!”


WHAT?!

I don’t sit around waiting for people to reply my emails (Ok I lie, I do. *hides face) but that doesn’t mean you should expect me to do something for you whenever you want it to be done! How dare you expect such a request?? *glares*

It’s not like you are offering to pay me more. Also, if you had any sincerity at all, you would make all these arrangements or orders IN ADVANCE. Your lack of responsibility just shows you don’t give a shit about this, so why should I help you out?

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Meh.

So these are just a few of the many, many rude things I have noticed inconsiderate people displaying since I’ve started Shiberty’s Sweets.

People expecting me to work on less than a day’s notice, people who insult me by asking for discounts even when I’ve quoted them a competitive price…


Look, I am not a wholesale centre in Bangkok.

Every single one of my cupcakes are painstakingly homemade from scratch to the very last degree and you won’t find the same shit outside even if you tried. So don’t barter with me like I am some pasar malam knick knacks seller. I TAKE IMMENSE PRIDE IN WHAT I DO, THANK YOU VERY MUCH.

If you genuinely have not enough money to spare on cupcakes but would still love to try my creations, polite discussion is always open to people who are courteous enough. However if I know you can totally afford it but simply choose to be a cheapskate, it’s a completely different story and I WILL ignore your pathetic behaviour.

Some people even go to the extent of pretending to miscalculate the price I’ve quoted them, and they transfer like $10 lesser than required, then say they will pay when in person but they claim to not have enough cash on hand when the time arrives. I can’t possibly hold onto their order refusing to hand over the cupcakes… So I have to proceed to chase after them for payment for the next week or so.

This actually happened to me twice recently, and yesterday after like a week of chasing payment (always same reply: Sorry I didn’t do it today, will do it soon!)

Then I reached my limits and sent this girl a text saying “Look, now you’re really starting to piss me off. Can you stop being so irresponsible and annoying and just transfer the money already?? Or do you expect me to just forget about it?

To which I think I FINALLY got the message across to her, coz she transferred on the very same night after delaying for a week. Some people… TSK!!!

FTS! I don’t need this sort of business, so take your cheapskate behaviour elsewhere. I swear I’ve never experienced this sort of gross behaviour half as much as when I was doing photoshoots and blogging. Photographers used to pay generous amounts in full cash before we even started shooting!!!

I guess people are really superficial in this sense. When I tell them I write articles online as a part time job, they go OoooOoOh! and assume I’m very well-learned and sensible that’s why people wanna hear what I have to say

(part time writer aka blogger la but sounds fancier and a lot of people still don’t understand the term blogger properly)

Or when I say I stand around and take nice photos for photographers

(they go OOOH AHH so pretty ah model ah! to this day I still shudder when people use that word on me. sorry tyra banks and miranda kerr T_T it’s a disgrace to your work)

But people just seem to nod their head and go “Oh!” when I say I bake cupcakes.

Thus I think it is safe to concur the different treatment I’ve been receiving lately is highly related to do with the fact that baking cupcakes is dowwnnn the job ladder or in a job hiearchy sense.

Which is why I approve of using a grossly pretentious name such as “DELECTABLES’ ARTIST” or even better, a “Dolce Artista!!!!” which apparently means pastry chef in French (a reader sent in an email suggesting it lol)

Maybe that way people would be inclined take me more seriously -_-

To me, as long as someone is making a decent living using their own skills, they have a respectable job. I don’t look down on anyone who earns lesser than me, and neither does my customer or business etiquette differ according to the person’s paycheck.

As long as they don’t do indecent jobs like prostitution or drug dealing, why should people be judged negatively according to their jobs?

Billionaires and geniuses like the creator of Facebook definitely deserve a ton more credit for what he does, but it’s not fair to treat a taxi driver rudely just because he drives a taxi for a living.. agree? It’s ridiculous how immediate and significant certain peoples attitudes have changed. I’m not saying all my customers are terrible, most are amazing and easy-to-deal-with-people who are really appreciative of what I do for them and all but there are those who are just plain nasty. Had to have my little rant to let some steam off. You people reading this feeling guilty cuz you know you’re one of those people.. Ya should be ashamed of yourselves!

And it doesn’t kill to be polite to someone, even if you’re paying them money in the end. I don’t live to serve you. So please, have some fuckin’ courtesy, people!!!

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Hey, I may be a Dolce Artista, but I still wear Dolce & Gabbana ok!!
#amiwittyoramiwitty

xoxo,
Jess

xoxo,
Jess

What’s Bakin’?

Some of the latest creations from Shiberty’s Sweets!!!

Because good things in life ought to be shared.

(well you can’t eat them unless ya order from us but at least you can look!!)

Piggy cupcakes version 2!

We had these sent to a chick’s office during her working hours from an “anonymous sender” along with a funny romantic poem.

Perfect way to brighten up someone’s day and if you don’t wanna turn into a pig yourself, you can distribute the cupcakes among your colleagues :P

Pretty flowers made for a pretty girl ♥ I’m in love with these colours!

I told you my flowers would keep on improving! Whaddya think of these ones?

These blooms were done for Nira, and she even did us a huge favour by blogging an awesome review, you can check it out here

Bright orange basketball cupcakes that will score with any hoop shooters.

Finally, a cupcake design that’s a little more “manly” rather than ultra feminine and cutesy themes. I hope people order soccer balls next :P

I actually don’t like doing repeated designs because there’s no room for creativity!

Oh, what’s this?

Nothing much, only the most amazing chocolate cupcakes you have ever set sight upon, that’s all.


Wipe that drool off your monitor screen now!!!

Moist, fluffy rich chocolate cake base topped off with creamy, smooth chocolatey buttercream.. Does it seriously get any better than this???

Baby pink buttercream and rainbow sprinkles with frilly borders for a birthday girl. Wait for it, it gets better!!!

Besides being smothered with fresh whipped cream inbetween the layers, the inside of the cake also happens to be….

Rainbow coloured!!!! It’s almost blindingly colorful, eh?

My (self-proclaimed) famous rainbow cake, remade – version 2. I loved the colours and texture more this time around, looks yummier and more moist! These pics were sent to me by the girl who ordered the cake, obviously I can’t cut into their cake to take pictures then sell it to them hahaha.

Buttercream + fresh whipped cream + rainbow vanilla cakey goodness dammnnnn I wish I had some for myself now!!

Next up is something possibly equally impressive or even more so, since you guys haven’t seen something like this on my blog before, I got heaps of compliments via twitter yesterday for twitpicing this!!!!!

Instead of the usual buttercream, this time we got to play a lot with fondant pieces!!! Super excited to do these cupcakes because they’re something really different from our usual ones.

As you can tell the theme was CA$INO, VIVA LAS VEGAS!!

(Actually the customer specified “MBS-style gambling” but whatever Las Vegas sounds more exciting LOL.)

Yes, everything is edible. If you’re wondering… cards were hand drawn with edible markers!


We made a fortune that night!
Literally.

(actually it was just last night)

I think my mum would be more than delighted if she saw these! :)

Speaking of my momma, she’s coming home tomorrow. I AM SO EXCITED!!!! I’ve missed her heaps. She’s been away the whole time since we’ve started up Shiberty’s Sweets, I can’t wait for her to see in person all the work we’re achieving!


Breakdancing dance poses silhouettes!!
Pretty bad ass for a cupcake huh?!

Sam made this batch all by himself! I find them to look very accurate and realistic.

I just want y’all to know that I don’t make these cupcakes singlehandedly, my boyfriend is my other half so if you wanna give praise, don’t forget about him too!!!! :D

Btw, everything that is written on the cupcakes are specifically specified by the customers, so if it’s “Me ♥ Ace” instead of “I ♥ Ace” it’s because they wanted it to be that way, it’s not my own grammar mistake!

Clearly I did the colorful bits because they are so undeniably girly hehe ^.^

No, it’s not christmas yet, but someone’s husband’s nickname is apparently “Ho ho ho”! #Don’tAsk

You might’ve noticed by now that I do cartoon faces like ^.^ for all my animals because I can’t draw realistic living things for nuts!!!!

Plus I think it adds an instant “kawaii” factor.

#IhatePeopleWhoDropRandomJapaneseWordsIntoAnEnglishSentence

#AndAlsoPeopleWhoOveruseTheTwitter#HashtagToMakeAPoint,AKAme

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The end!!

For now at least. More work again to be done tomorrow!!! But it’s the sort of work I look forward to, so technically it’s not really work at all. No payment is greater than fulfillment.

….Ok I lie. I’d be fucking happy if you paid me a thousand bucks for one of my cakes, but still, LOL! This has probably been oversaid and done by now, but I wanna thank everyone again for their incredible support. :)

The only bad thing I can tell about this is, I cannot resist nomming on the leftover buttercream / cupcakes and the fact that people are calling me a “BAKER” now, wtf?!

Baker sounds horrible!!!! I dunno I just sound like some boring old auntie who works in a bakery making plain loaves of bread or something. Sounds as boring as “gardener” or “shoe polisher” wtf. I wanna be called a “Cupcake Artist” or something equally pretentious and self-gratifying HAHAHAHA. Wendy and Qiu Qiu suggested that “Pastry Chef” sounds nicer. But I’m not really a chef, and cupcakes aren’t really pastries, are they?!

So for now I am happy with “that chio girl who makes even chioer cupcakes.”

*nods furiously*


P.S -
Depending on response, I may be doing step by step picture blog post tutorials or even how-to videos showing interested parties how to decorate cupcakes like I do, so you can request a tutorial for any cake / cupcake technique or design you’ve seen on my blog so far, in the comment box below.

Plz no rainbow cakes because that is very #duh and brainless!!!!

xoxo,
Jess

xoxo,
Jess
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