What Inspires Me

Let us inspire each other.


Music

“Those who danced were thought to be quite insane by those who could not hear the music.”

My favourite song at the moment.. I can’t imagine why this singer does not have more listeners.

It’s so mellow, yet so strong in its own sense… So soft and lovely, it whispers into my ear all the things I want to hear. It reminds me of all the things I miss and want.

It speaks of hope, love and dreams. ♥

It makes me want to lay in a field full of sunflowers or daisies, dance around in a floaty dress on my tippy toes pretending I’m a ballerina.. it makes me want to fall asleep to this song every single night. I feel so carefree and at peace with the world :)

Another one.. if you liked the previous one, you’ll love this song too!

There are those who think that I’m strange, they would box me up and tell me to change.. but you hold me close and softly say that you wouldn’t have me any other way.

When words fail to express what I really mean, when my mind fails to process what’s really going on, when my heart is no longer capable of feeling properly… and most of all, when the world turns its back on me and it’s Me Vs The World again, music seems to be the one and only thing that has never failed me.

Any question that you may be the seeking the answer for lies in a song you may or may not have discovered yet.

When I’m feeling lonely, it keeps me company with its soft melodious tones, flowing through and wrapping itself around me like a warm blanket.

When I’m sad, it soothes my aching heart by assuring me that it knows exactly what I’m going through.. and that everything is going to be okay, because the music is still playing.

When I’m happy, it elevates my happiness and makes the moment extra personal and special, by singing along with me.

When I’m angry or frustrated, I like to blast edgy songs and scream along.. it’s nice to know someone else hates the world equally as much.

— Music inspires me because it knows the lyrics to my heart.

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Beautiful Images

“Photography is a way of feeling, of touching, of loving. What you have caught on film is captured forever… it remembers little things, long after you have forgotten everything.”

I would use the word “Photography”, but it sounds a little too superficial and technical for what it means to me. I care not for what lens or camera body I’m using, the only important in an image to me is the everlasting question :

How does it make you feel?

If it’s managed to awaken any emotion in you at all, then it is a meaningful image successful in inspiring people. Nothing else matters.

“Photography takes an instant out of time, altering life by holding it still.”

To suit the gorgeous songs I’ve posted above, I included some pictures of Flowers around Sam’s neighbourhood – Part 2! I like this bunch much better.

They’re so beautiful, I’ve never known flowers like these before. Consequence of staying in the city your whole life. Take some time to smell the roses…

“Whether he is an artist or not, the photographer is a joyous sensualist, for the simple reason that the eye traffics in feelings, not in thoughts.”

I love taking and sharing photos, because it allows me to show the world what I think of it. How else better to let people see the way you see things? Explaining in words is one thing, but seeing is believing.

I believe that anyone can be a good photographer, even with the lousiest camera, a true photo moment can never be wrecked by bad lighting or technical difficulties.

I feel like capturing memories and beauty on camera is like preserving the moment forever.

It can never be taken away from me, and even if my films and digital copies of the photos are destroyed, I’ll always remember the moment in the exact way I took the picture of.

It’s like I’ve decided, “Okay, so this is it. Take this picture and it stays with you forever.”

A photographer is like a painter, with his mind the paintbrush, the camera a canvas and the world an inspiration.

— Beautiful images inspire me by reminding me that there is always something beautiful in every situation, if only you would open your heart to it, then you could bring it out and see the beauty that would have otherwise gone unnoticed.

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My mum

“A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.”

She’s been traveling a lot and is hardly home recently, which has made me notice the effect of not having her around in my life. It feels emptier.

My mum is a very interesting woman.

Sometimes she’s caring, loving, understanding, and at other times she’s almost annoying, hostile and has a nasty temper.

But above all, she’s my skyscraper of strength and stability when all else in the world comes crashing down on my shoulders.

One of the things she used to say was, “You can choose your friends, but not your family.”

How I see it, she left out the words “….But you love them all the same” at the end of her quote.

It explains a lot about a mother’s love. Even before you were born, they started loving you already. After you were born, despite your differences and shortcomings, she still took care of you and watched over you as you grow older.

Even though she might relentlessly nag about how you’re not studying or working hard enough all the time, really, at the end of the day it doesn’t matter to her who the brightest student in the whole damn school is, because only one of them is her child, and that fact is irreplaceable.

Because of her, I’ve grown to become my own person, yet alike to her in so many ways she doesn’t understand.

The key concept to parenthood:

No child is ever perfect. They will make mistakes, and sometimes the harder you try to hold onto them, the further you are driving them away.

Give them some space, let them make their own fair share of mistakes and take risks the same way you got to live your own life when you were younger… eventually, they will always find their way back home.

Some might get a little lost on their way, and others would take longer than the rest but they’ll come back to you, just wait and see.

And then they’ll need someone to be waiting there for them, with wide open arms and non-judgemental eyes.

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Despite how overly concerned and protective she may be sometimes, she does allow me ample freedom, letting me live my life and to be my own person… and I think that’s the most important factor as to why I’m such a strong-headed, free-spirited individual.

Those who know me well know that I’m influenced by my mum in the littlest and biggest ways,

from the clothes I wear, to the way I live my life. She’s had a fulfilling life, with many ups and downs and one of her favourite things to do is tell her stories of what happened many years ago.


A very fond memory
is of her telling the story about how my dad didn’t want more children when she was expecting me (they already had my elder brother and he’s 8 years older, he thought it was too big a gap and didn’t wanna start all over again)

So he told my mum to go for an abortion, but she refused. She loved me even before I was born.

My dad got pissed off and exclaimed that he wouldn’t pay for my medical expenses, etc, and that I was “her” responsibility and not his. She agreed, and true enough, eventually when I was born, he wasn’t even at the hospital bed with her, he was on holiday, doing something else he shouldn’t have been doing..

She went on to tell me how heartbreaking it is to be a single mother and through all that sadness, she managed to find hope and at the end of her heartbreaking story, she looked at me and said,

“But I wouldn’t have had it any other way, because then I wouldn’t have you.”

And then she hugged me.

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My mother is amazing like that :’) So tearing up while typing this.

Right there and then, I wanted to cry because I felt so sad about her story but loved because it was all done for me.. but I didn’t, I put up a strong front because I always wanna act tough in front of my mum.

Not because I’m afraid of showing my emotions, because I don’t want her to worry.

I want her to think and know that I am always happy, healthy, and strong. (Which I am 99% of the time)

I don’t want her to know that really, I’m a big softie and can be quite the emotional wreck, crying over everything and nothing in particular.

But to me, crying is not a weakness.

You might think I’m crazy for saying this, but when my heart is aching, my mind and body overwhelmed with thoughts and emotions and I’m gasping for breath between my heavy sobs….

I feel the most alive.

If you are hurt, it means you care, and if you care, then there is something to live for.

You don’t see dead people (emotionally and physically) crying too often now, do you? It’s because their hearts are cold, numb and empty. I’d rather hurt than feel nothing at all.

I think that makes me special, being able to look at what other people might consider flaws and imperfections as character and beauty. That is why I’m so different from my dad. It’s because I am like my mum.

My dad has tried to use that as an insult against me. But he’s the one who has never known a proper loving relationship between parent and child.

And that is also why I love my mum. ♥


— My mum inspires me to do the right thing
, to be my own person, and to love unconditionally.

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My boyfriend

I’ve said so many things about Sam on my blog, that I’m not sure if there’s much left I can say.

If somebody who’s not family and has absolutely no obligations to me could love me so damn willingly and selflessly, then heck, there must be some sort of crazy beauty in myself that I don’t see.

What kind of girl makes another guy want to put his entire life on hold and drop everything he has just to spend time with her?

Or rather, what kind of guy would be so crazy to do something drastic like that?!

It’s so much more than money, time, and effort.

It’s about believing that what you’re doing and who you’re doing it for is truly and completely worth it all.

Oceans and countries apart didn’t stop him from reaching out to me. It’s hard not to believe in destiny and fate when it happens to you in such a fairytale way. I was trying to get my over my ex, then I met this funny and interesting guy online who was everything I wanted my ex to be… but of course he had to be in another country.

I remember crying to myself before I went to bed one night, thinking how tragic it was that I’d never be able to meet this guy who could make me so very happy just by talking to me.

He was so near yet so far.

He’d would accompany me everyday when I needed someone and be the lullaby I’d fall asleep to… certain days I could almost swear I felt him right here with me but he’s a good 8 hour plane flight away.

Then something magical happened.

Sometimes I still can’t believe he traveled across the world just to meet me. My ex use to complain that couldn’t even be bothered traveling to my place as we lived quite far.

Well… Sam’s the man to prove that any distance is not one too far for him.

Our relationship has really been testing my limits as to how much of a selfless person I can be. It can get awfully tiring and trying, but the whole point is that it pushes me to fight for what I believe in.

And I believe in us.

My boyfriend inspires me by helping me discover things about myself only he can bring out.

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And of course, you, my readers, and my blog, inspire me daily.

You’re a big part of the person I am now and I owe almost all of my individuality to this little private space of mine on the internet.

Thank you for all the encouragement and support, the laughs and the tears, for sharing parts of my life with me but most of all, the experience of having a blog that takes you places.

That’s a few of the many, many things that inspire me daily.


What inspires you?

xoxo,
Jess

xoxo,
Jess

Cyber Bullying

This headline caught my attention when I was browsing twitter the other day.

“Singapore has the second highest number of cyber-bullying cases after the US, says new survey. -Straits Times”

I can’t say this information comes off as much of a surprise, I’ve noticed this all along, being online 24/7 and all so what I’m really shocked by is how much people are choosing to be BLIND towards the situation.



Does anyone actually understand what it REALLY means?


It seems like nobody cares, but really, PEOPLE SHOULD CARE.

Singapore, a super tiny country… tiny would be an understatement. And yet we’re second highest in cyber bullying rates?!

I never understood why people said Singapore’s a conservative country. Conservative my ass.

I’ll take rude, shallow, narrow-minded and superficial over conservative any day.
I spend a lot of my time online (obviously being a blogger and a geek) and I can safely say young Singaporeans are the nastiest, bitchiest bunch of netizens I’ve ever met.

I read the blogs of people from around the world and I’ve always wondered how come other people can be so kind and encouraging compared to Singaporeans. I’ve almost NEVER seen a spiteful or rude comment on other peoples blogs (non-Singaporean)

You can’t say the same for our local blogs. There’s always mean comments being left on peoples tag boards or commenting system…

Even the most innocent school girl or harmless random individual seemingly minding their own business will get flamed and insulted for no apparent reason.


Heck, I for one would know a lot about cyber bullying!!!

I’ve been blogging for years, and have received ALL sorts of insults, most completely uncalled for…

“Fat” and “Ugly” being the most common. (and they expect me to feel insulted. no, i’m not going to feel insulted by someone who is more than likely uglier than me calling me ugly.)

People just need to find fault with everything.

I’ve had people point out that my armpit’s not shaved properly, or that my foot is ugly because I have big toes, and if they cannot find real faults with me they’ll just make something up like…. wow your eyes are so small and your nose is so flat. -__-


Here’s my most recent hater comment for your viewing pleasure

Every time I read such a comment on my blog or on other peoples… The first thing that comes to my mind is..


What the FUCK is wrong with these people?!

Seriously, why are they so fucking spiteful?! Did their parents not give them enough love when they were younger and so they grew up being all hateful and angsty and feeling like they need to spread their hate and misery with the rest of the world?

Does calling me fat make you any slimmer? No.

Does calling me ugly make you any prettier? No.

Does leaving such an ugly comment make you feel any better about yourself?

Sad for you, BUT THE ANSWER IS PROBABLY YES.



Hear, hear, a blogger’s woes.


What did I ever do to deserve such remarks from people?

Why tell me that I’ve gained weight? I’m not blind, I can see for myself. If I really cared about it as much as you do, I would have done something about it like starving myself, but no, I’m not quite as superficial, thanks. A few pounds won’t kill me or my self esteem.

And telling me that my popularity is going down??? Remember what I said about when people run out of things to nitpick on, they make random shit up?!

I am absolutely disgusted with trash talkers on the internet because

1) None of these people would ever have the guts to talk to me like that in real life

2) The very fact they feel the need to resort to such lowly methods makes me feel sorry for them

Lucky for me (well sort of), I’ve been toughened up because of all the bullying and hostile behaviour I’ve experienced throughout my younger years… I’ve been through so much kind of shit in my life, really, cyber bullying is child’s play. But that doesn’t mean I think it’s OKAY.

Just because I know how to deal with it, doesn’t mean other people who are going through the same thing can…..

And judging from the number of depression and failed self esteem cases caused by cyber bullying / influences, it’s not a matter to be taken lightly!!

Some have even resorted to suicide because they didn’t know how to stop the taunting…

It makes me so incredibly sad to see something like that happening, because as hurtful as mean comments from stupid people can be, ultimately they’re still very trivial when compared to life’s other hurdles.



Life STILL goes on!!!!

Sadly for this girl, she didn’t know what cyber bullying is and at such a vulnerable age, (15) I guess it must have been all too hard for her to handle alone.

But since my country Singapore has got the 2nd highest cyber bullying rate in the entire WORLD, and because I’ve been a victim of bullying and I’m a blogger as of currently,

I feel compelled to share with you guys what Cyber Bullying is REALLY about.

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What IS Cyber Bullying?

Cyber bullying isn’t just limited to “U R SO FAT N FUGLY” type of comments on blogs. Although those can be disturbing enough if received all too frequently, it gets much worse.

I moderate my comments, and have been receiving significantly lesser spam since, but I’m sure many of you out there who are still using tagboards have experienced haters that KEEP ON COMING BACK to say shit about you, refusing to go away!

This is why I always encourage moderated comments.

People can also receive death threats (I have!!) and feel potentially physically threatened. I have people posting my address / handphone number / other personal details on my blog, telling me they’re going to stalk me and follow me home at night… or something stupid like that.

A typical death threat goes like this, “Don’t think I don’t know who you really are. I know where you live, I know what school you’re in, and I’m going to find you little girl and KILL YOU AND RAPE YOU SFJWETWI4FJ” -

Yes, I really received that threat -___-

And besides blogs, which are the easiest methods of targeting somebody online because it’s like their own private space that you can easily “enter”… there’s also other social media platforms like Facebook and forums.

People could start Facebook “groups” that hate you and invite their friends to join, post bulletins that consist of FAKE rumours (and even if it was true rumours, it’s still bullying) about you and spread them all around, sending you harassing messages and posting private pictures of you that other people shouldn’t see that they’ve somehow managed to attain online…. the list goes on.

Oh and not forgetting FORUMS.

Where cowards unite and find strength in masses while they single out unsuspecting victims and intrude their privacy.

Here’s a classic puke-worthy example.

A local “Singapore Gossip Forum”... Yeah, did you know such a website existed?

Where stupid girls come together to discuss rumours they’ve heard about certain people, and then debating over whether it’s possibly true or not because they’ve got a “friend who knows their friend”… LOL.

Is it really their business who sleeps with who or who’s done what before?

Can you say GET A FUCKING LIFE?

They even stoop as low as to post pictures of people that are obviously taken in bad lighting / angle / timing and then go like, “Omg this girl is so out of shape and hideous!! Gross! Got double chin / crooked teeth / lots of back fats / protruding forehead / -insert stupid superficial comment here-”

Yeah right, as if YOU are any better!!! If your fellow gossipers got a hold of YOUR picture, guess what they’d do to it?

That’s right, you’ll get the negative attention and criticism you truly deserve, that you so readily showered upon other innocent people!

“The girl’s name is Jenna Chan, she’s a Singaporean amateur model living on off in the US and Singapore. This girl in question is a notorious flamer in 2 forums frequent by Singaporeans. She and her team of flamers are hated by many. Her forum
handle is “Jenzene”

Recently, it seems there was a fall out in her team and internal power struggles lead to betray of identities. One of the team members identity was leek out, in retaliation she leaked Jenzene’s public nude photos.”

Wooooot!!!! That’s payback for you, Miss Nude!!!!

How does it feel being bitten in the ass by karma?

I don’t wanna be another cyber bully, but honestly, if I had a face and body like that, let’s just say I would not even DREAM of posing nude (or even modeling..) and then criticizing other people for their looks or behaviour.

These girls are so ugly inside and out, they make me sick.

They use words like “Bitch, “Ugly”, “Desperate”, “Hypocrite”, “Poor” on other people..

But I can’t even begin to imagine what kind of lives these gossipers have themselves!!

Hello, this is coming from jealous no-lifes who spend way too much time talking useless shit and spreading hate about other people they don’t know on an internet forum!!!!

If you’re not an UGLY, DESPERATE, HYPOCRITICAL BITCH WITH POOR MORALS then what the fuck are you?!

Shame on you!!! You deserve to forever be condemned to having a life that’s not even worth living for, so much that you have to focus your attention on other people because yours is just that shitty.

Kk now let’s move on I’m getting tired talking about these low lifes.

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Why does Singapore have such a high Cyber Bullying rate?

We’re too bored, too rich, and too superficial. In a country where you’re defined by what kind of branded handbags you carry or car you drive, is it really all that surprising?

Too many youths have easy access to computers and it’s such a convenient source of entertainment that most don’t even bother leaving their house to explore the world outside.

Many don’t have much of a life outside of school and work, so all their free time is occupied by browsing the net…

A lot of Singaporeans have blogs, Facebook accounts, partake actively in forums etc

And also a lot of Singaporeans aren’t taught proper manners and ethics and lack the BALLS to confront people in real life.. put them together, and you get cyber bullying!

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Why do Cyber Bullies do what they do?

There could be a lot of reasons… Some are bored and do it for laughs (immaturity), others try to get a reaction (inconsideration)

Some are just power hungry and do it to feed their shrinking ego.

But from my personal experiences, these are the top 3 reasons:


1) They are absolutely miserable inside.. even if they refuse to admit it.

Because NO HAPPY PERSON in their right mind would ever do something like that to hurt other people.

Why? Because we’re better than that! I have a happy life, and I’m living it, I’m blogging it. I’m not hiding behind my computer trying to put other people down. No, that’s just not my style.

It just doesn’t make sense for a normal person to do something like that.

Miserable people spread hate and hypocrisy and unpleasant feelings. They have no time for love and goodwill because they’re just too busy wondering why their life sucks so much.

They get off from other peoples pain, and they feed off the satisfaction of hurting others… To make themselves feel better, they must bring someone else down.

Nothing like losers inflicting pain upon other people to achieve some self-assurance.

These people get so much shit in their lives, from school, from work and from parents / friends etc that they feel the NEED to take it out on others. When you’re stressed or miserable, you turn spiteful.

When you turn spiteful, you take it out on randoms on the internet, because like I said before, they have no balls and they think that harassing other people online would result in no consequences. BUT THERE ARE ALWAYS CONSEQUENCES.

Jenzene will tell you so.



2) They are undeniably, regrettably jealous.

They’re jealous of other peoples looks, wealth, status, success, career, fame, etc.

Before you go and dismiss this reason going “NOT EVERYBODY IS JEALOUS OF YOU SELF-ABSORBED IDIOT”, let me convince you otherwise.

So assuming someone comes onto my blog and insults me randomly by saying I’m really damn ugly and obese and she feels sorry for me because, erm, she’s supposedly better.

And I say she’s being jealous and spiteful…. what do I really mean?

I take into consideration that maybe, just maybe, she really has a supermodel figure and a gorgeous face to boot. I’m nothing compared to her. Well then, good for her.

If you really are so much better than me, why the heck aren’t you doing something with your awesomeness?

Why don’t you go and model, set up a blog, be more popular and better than me to prove just how awesome you are instead of posting lame comments on my blog which immediately equates you to a LOSER?

Why would you waste your time trying to bring down somebody that is already LOWER than you?

Does it make sense? No.

People only try to bring down somebody that’s equal or higher than them, not somebody that’s already on the ground because it’s not worth their time. Would she post mean comments on the blog of every other person who’s not as attractive as her?

Probably not. If so, why did she pick me???

The only logical conclusion would be that she’s jealous of something else…. Of what? Who really knows?

Maybe she’s thinking, “WTF, I’m so much hotter and better than this girl, why am I not more popular or leading a better life than her? She just doesn’t deserve what she has!”

Most of the time, people are jealous of other peoples success. You could be really pretty and intelligent and rich and famous but if people can tell you’re failing at life and are really miserable, would they be jealous of you? No.

But if you were not that pretty and not that rich or famous or witty but you seem to be doing much better than them… would they feel jealous?


Yeah, they probably would.

Just the way the human mind works.

Sometimes, it’s not about whether you’re BETTER than them, it’s about the fact they think you’re NOT better than them and if such is so why the heck aren’t they enjoying as much success?!


Food for thought.

And our final reason….



3) Some people just can’t help
finding fault with everything.

Simply put, some people are just fucked in the head. Come on, we all know somebody like that.

The person who always complains about everything and nothing, the person who always has something mean to say about someone else and that person who could just never be satisfied with the world.

Need I say more?

Some people just enjoy attacking the already-injured.

Sure, go ahead, pick on the weak, pick on the young.

Insult somebody on their blog who revealed she’s going through an eating disorder by saying that she’s super fat and unattractive so she should definitely keep up her bulimic ways.

Or sign up for an anonymous account on a gossip forum and start a rumour that your friend is a slut because the guy you like is into her, hopefully that way, the guy you’re into will dump her.

Perhaps even exposing your closet gay friend’s sexual preferences by plastering the word FAGGOT on his pictures and then posting them all over Facebook?

Just a few of the many ways cyber bullying occurs…

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Why It’s So WRONG

The sickening part about cyber bullying is that these people know it’s wrong but still do it!

They try to keep their identity as much of a secret as possible because they’re TERRIFIED of people finding out who they really are. If you have nothing to hide, then you have nothing to be afraid of.

If you’re not afraid of people judging you the way you judge others, then why are you hiding your identity?

Then if you are really so afraid of people doing that to you, WHY DO YOU CAUSE THE SAME HURT TO OTHER PEOPLE??

When you insult somebody, at least put your FACE and NAME to what you’re saying, so that people may judge you the same way you judge others, you fucking coward.

Shame on you, for being who you are, for being so much more pathetic than anybody you ever harassed or insulted online.

They say the internet is a dangerous place and people are right.

They say that with excessive attention comes a price, which is constant criticism and that is also right but answer this:


Do YOU have to be THE asshole inflicting pain upon others?
If one less person does it everyday, one less person has to suffer from cyber bullying.

You feel so empowered by your anonymity on the internet because you think you can say whatever you want and not have to face any consequences at all.

Which is true to a certain extent, but have you sick people ever ONCE stopped to think that,

“perhaps the person on the receiving end of my insults isn’t a cold-hearted cunt like I am”?

Or “Perhaps my blatantly hurtful ways of trying to bring the other person down would actually WORK… and then what?”

Do you proceed to pat yourself on the back and laugh mercilessly at how you’ve successfully ruined somebody’s day or even their entire self-esteem?

Are you so bent on tormenting somebody that you’re willing to let them suffer from your selfish actions?

If you have no self-respect or conscience, perhaps you won’t suffer any immediate consequences (besides being unable to retain any happiness in your life because you’re so spiteful) but someone out there will. I don’t know if you’ve realized this…

The person you are calling a homosexual faggot, obese, dumb, slutty, or ugly is actually a REAL person with REAL feelings.

People can try their best to ignore the shit you say about them.. but truthfully, most people aren’t trained to be as soulless as you.

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To you, I may just be another pixel on the internet you like to pick on and throw shit at, but to me, I’m sitting here at my computer, wondering how the heck I ever offended anyone enough to be receiving such insults for no good reason and what the other person is trying to achieve.

And I’m not the only one feeling this way.

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Now that it’s all said and done, here are some ways to deal with and prevent cyber bullying…

Because if we have so many cyber bullies, we have just as many people BEING cyber bullied! (wow, ever thought of that?)


1)
Do not reveal any overly personal information online that could result in a nasty situation when in the wrong hands.

Yeah, so that probably means keeping your address, nude pictures, phone numbers, work place locations, sex tapes and the name of the person you lost your virginity to off the net.

2) Do not post pictures you’ll regret ever taking.. or even having them lying around for other people to discover.

I used to do some modeling shoots and I’d hate for the more provocative ones to surface, which I’m hoping they never will, but even if they do I’m mentally prepared at least, coz I know how to protect myself against shit people say about me!

Insults bounce off me so naturally, it’s almost a talent how I deal with haters. Comes with a price of course. You’ve to go through a lot of it.

3) Don’t say anything you can’t pay the price for saying.

Some people get picked on because they’re asking for it… like you know, going around insulting other people and thinking you’re all that? Sometimes others wanna give you a taste of your own medicine.

If you wanna talk about a controversial topic like race, religion, homosexuality, etc, make sure you’re prepared for a lot of hate coming your way because people are ALWAYS angry when talking about stuff like that!

4) If you ever get cyber bullied, you have to take action.

Don’t try to ignore it or keep it to yourself for as long as possible, because it will eat away at you and one day you’ll find it’s affecting you more than you ever realized.

If you have spammers on your blog, either block them or moderate your comments. Don’t let them have the pleasure of saying whatever they want, because little things like that make them come back for more.

Don’t retort back at them either, because some just love getting a reaction out of you (unless your comeback is so brilliant that you feel awesome for defending yourself!)

If you are receiving physical threats, DO report to the police. Maybe if your case isn’t serious enough the police might not do much with it but trust me, it’ll scare the cyber bullies off. Cyber bullies are not gangsters, they’re cowards.

Mention authority and it sends them running off like pussies.

I was being harassed online by this guy, until I tracked down his ip address and soon linked it to his exact company and I immediately emailed them about the situation…

Then the threats stopped coming, just like that.

If you’re receiving harassing texts or facebook messages etc or having your pictures defaced and posted on forums, etc, you always have the law on your side. If enough people pursue the matter, authorities will realize that cyber bullying needs to be taken MUCH MORE SERIOUSLY than it is now.

Lastly, the most important step to overcoming cyber bullying is to become immune.

Understand the reasons why people attack you and realize that it’s not your fault. Feeling sorry for my haters usually gets rid of all the anger or annoyance I initially had, as I realized how insignificant they truly were.

I read haters like a book now.

Stand up to them, take action, erase them from your life… do whatever you can to gain control of your situation!

Remember, a person can insult you but you are only as insulted as you ALLOW yourself to be.

You can react dramatically, make a big fuss, cry over it… or you can be the bigger person and handle the situation with grace and maturity. The only thing a person can NEVER take away from you is your dignity.

These people have hurt you in some way or another, but so what?

THEY DON’T MEAN SHIT!!!

Hold your head up high, and move on with your life. Show them that despite their utmost efforts to bring you down, it’s not going to work, and you’re still going to continue being awesome the way you are.

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If you feel like this blog entry has inspired you in some way or another or if you think it’ll benefit people you know who are suffering from cyber bullying, feel free to share this link: http://underage-girl.blogspot.com/2010/10/cyber-bullying.html

To all cyber bullies out there: I don’t know how you can look at yourself in the mirror knowing you’re so pathetic.

Do yourself a favour and stop radiating hate all the time. One day you’re going to drown in your own negativity.

xoxo,
Jess

xoxo,
Jess

Laurier Shooting Star Post Event Advertorial

Remember the Laurier advertorial I did a while back?

Here’s my coverage for the actual event that happened on the 9th of October – the Laurier Shooting Star challenge!!!!

Goody bag to start the day with, all participants get one!

Awesome stuff that every girl would benefit from like Biore make up remover inside… refreshing and leaves your skin feeling really smooth!!!!

Also included : water bottles and basic necessities to stay alive in Singapore’s crazyyyy heat because the girls are gonna have to outrun each other around Orchard!

Team 61 – Wendy, Zoe and me!!!

Me & Wendy!

Team 61! Credits to Zoe and also Laurier’s Facebook for some of the photos I’m using in this post ♥

Me and Zoe… hahaha why do I look so gong

Fay and Zoe showing off their new polaroid cams, yay!!!! We all got 1 and I was very pleased because I’ve always wanted a polaroid cam but never got around to buying it…

Hello baby!!!

You are now mine! Every other participating team got 1 for themselves too, to keep even after the event.

The event only started at about 12ish but by 10 plus / 11 there was an overwhelming number of people at the event already… I honestly did not expect such a good turn out!!!!

For those who still don’t know about this event, it took place at Cineleisure Orchard!

It’s Laurier’s first all-girls Amazing Race style challenge where 60 teams of girls pair up together and try to out-run and out-snap each other!!!!

Teams consisted of best friends, moms and daughters, cousins, sisters…

They’re given a list of tasks to do that have to be completed around Orchard, timing and accuracy are the key factors!

My team 61 were there to be guest judges to see which would be the eventual winner who triumphed over all muahahaha

All the girls were very patient and enthusiastic (waiting and running around the hot sun for hours) so kudos to all who participated… IT’S NOT EASY I know!!! But it seems like everyone had lots of fun still :)

Waiting for the girls to be briefed… Was having such a bad hair and make up day no wonder my camera decided to focus Wendy instead LOL


Ok, ready, set, go!!!!!

All girls received their tasks and have started to make their way around Orchard.. This is the list of tasks we had to complete.

We decided to participate in the challenge just for fun too!


First task completed!!!

Taking a polaroid snap of a guy with dimples. Me and Wendy were at Cheers and she randomly asked a few guys, “Hi, do you have dimples?” and lucky our 2nd or 3rd guy was totally friendly and agreed to a snapshot!!

Gotta love spontaneous people :)

I think this task was the most fun coz you get to approach cute guys and not seem desperate.. a bit crazy maybe LOL but that’s all part of the fun right!

Second task that we did… Walked to Somerset 313′s Forever 21 to snap a pic of ourselves in Leopard prints!!!

If only we had time to shop wahhhhhhhh so many pretty clothes… *___*

Inside Forever 21!!

You’re not exactly allowed photos inside hahaha but bloggers really don’t care they will take pictures ANYWHERE and EVERYWHERE.

Task 3 that we completed – finding Joanne Peh at “Finest Supermarket”

LOL we thought the actual person was going to be standing in some corner of the supermarket but all we found was a life sized cardboard piece of her!!!

Fourth task completed – going to Ben & Jerry’s and taking a picture with their signature cow!!

Woody the cow!!!!

And the last task that we completed for the day was putting on Black Lipstick! We didn’t finish em all coz well.. we didn’t need to!!!

Plus it was mad hot la. I really don’t know how the other girls had the determination to finish so efficiently…

This is me looking glum because the 3 of us did rock papers scissors to see which loser would have to put on the black lippie and that loser ended up being me!!!!

But because they’re darlings, they agreed to join me in putting on black lippie so I wouldn’t have to feel so alone and ridiculous hahaha ♥!!!!

Woot I love this pic!!!

We look hot in a vixen kind of way haha. I wish we got to keep polaroids.. Laurier kept them all. I wonder what did they do with em?? :P

Other polaroids!!!!

The close up ones are so funny I was like, “Ok I’m gonna snap chio artistic close up shots of y’all” and I don’t know why all that turned up was their chin.

How come what you see in the viewfinder isnt actually what comes out in the polaroid film?? Cheat me!!

Took this off Zoe’s Facebook!!!! This was during lunch.. at Waraku. Yummmm Japanese is my new fav cuisine.

Walked back to Cineleisure when it was time for us to do the judging of the contest!! I know I’ve said this already (because it applies to everyday in Singapore) but it was a HOT HOT HOTTTTT day!!!

The emcee debriefing the girls and asking them how the challenge went for them!

This was after like 3-4 hours of trying to outrun each other lol no wonder they look so tired.. 5 stars for effort definitely.

Me and the pretty emcee Ling!

Everyone busy at the event… so much activity that it’s almost hard to keep up with!

The girls stuck their appropriate polaroids onto the big pink wall for the judges to judge their accuracy and also their timing.

Prizes that were given out!!! There’s shopping vouchers and other coupons inside.. Many winners that day and most went home with happy faces ^.^

One of the photos during prize-giving ceremony!

Proof of how much fun everyone had!!!!!!

I must say this is one of the most successful events I’d ever participated in because everyone was just so enthusiastic and looked like they were having fun even though it was tough. Turn out was great, management was great, everything was fab!

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This fun event was brought to you by….

The Laurier Super Slimguard - thinnest napkin in the market at 1mm!

So absorbent yet it’s barely there. Now you don’t have to compromise your wardrobe or physical activities…


Thanks Laurier for organizing an awesome event!

For more information on Laurier and for future updates from them (possibly more exciting events coming your way!), head on over to

Laurier’s Facebook Page

xoxo,
Jess

xoxo,
Jess
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